Whitney 05/06/2010
Question:
Hi, I am 23 years old and found out I was pregnant at the beginning of March. I have been through a lot of struggles the past few years; I haven't been able to hold a job down and have been totally dependent on my mother and my boyfriend. Unable to grow up myself, I find myself unsure if I will be able to grow up in the six to seven months I have until this baby is born.
My dad is also in the last stages of cancer and will most likely pass within a few months. My due date is almost the same as my dad's birthday! Is that a sign? Will this baby keep me going after my dad's death? If I don't step up to the plate, I feel I will be doing what I have always done: backing out when things get tough. Please help: Should I keep the baby?
Answer:
Dr. Pablo Rodriguez responds:
The decision to keep a baby is one that should be made in consultation with those people in your life who will be a source of support and comfort whatever you do. Make a comprehensive evaluation of your wishes and desires for the future. In the end, it is up to you.
The fact that you are questioning your ability to handle this situation and are concerned about the future shows me that you are growing up already! Having doubts about oneself and the future is completely normal and a sign of maturity, not of weakness. You are the only person qualified to decide what to do with the rest of your life. Trust yourself!